This is an aspect of Rickys' addiction that is proving difficult for me. I have read in numerous places that my husbands' addiction/obsession with pornography, masturbation and "online sex" with other women has nothing to do with me. I have been assured of same thing by him, my parents and by two different therapists (mine (Ethel) and ours (Fred)).
WHY is it so hard for me to believe, though? WHY can't I shake these feelings that I am, somehow, inadequate? Undesirable? Unworthy?
Note to self: bring up (again) at next appointment with Ethel.
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I too have a hard time believing that it has nothing to do with me. I even go as far as “how can someone say that they love me and sleep with other people”? That makes no sense to me at all. I sometimes even wonder if this is not an addiction but just some horny people that can’t keep their pants on and don’t care about anyone but themselves. I still to this day have know clue how my wife could have done this.
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Broken
Broken - thanks for the reply. I can relate to everything that you are feeling. I still struggle (almost daily) with this but can say that taking the time to really learn about the psychology of addiction and my husbands' specific problem(s) has helped me tremendously. I'd be happy to share with you some of the books that I've found helpful if you are interested. Just let me know...
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